Brenda DeCapua
Brenda stayed on the island during hurricane Ian and she lived in a ground level home. She took refuge on the second story of her neighbor’s home and watched the storm surge rise to the level of the roof of her home next door. She was rescued by helicopter two days later and only then learned that her husband had passed away at 1:30 on the day of the storm at the nursing home in Fort Myers where he suffered with Alzheimer’s. This is a letter written to her friends and family. It describes her experience in hurricane Ian and concludes with thoughts of gratitude and hope for the future.
Dear Friends,
September 28, 2022. It’s been 107 days since my life changed forever. I lost my best friend and husband and my home on the same day. I don’t usually write this much ever but, as they say, extraordinary circumstances….bring extraordinary responses. Part of my recovery is writing and being thankful for my life and the ability to rebuild. On September 28th I left my home with too little – clothes for a couple days, meds, iPad, phone and thinking we would be right back home the next day. After all the last
few hurricanes I’d been thru the next day we were right back home with everything intact. We left behind the things we never think to carry with us, like photo albums, the DeCapua code of arms, my mother’s engagement ring my father gave to her in
1938. My pearls and jewelry my husband gave me throughout our 37 years of marriage. Plus, numerous gifts and mementos from grandchildren and our children. On that Wednesday morning my heart raced at the howling winds, the pool cage being
ripped into shreds, the fences being torn from the ground. I watched my husband’s favorite Bismarck palm tree being ripped into pieces and our roof shingles blowing in all directions. Our Whole home generator worked flawlessly until the storm surge took it under water. I prayed the surge would stay at bay but I knew it was coming and with a force I had never seen. It was like being on a trans-Atlantic flight going through terrible turbulence knowing everyone you love was on board and going to suffer the full force of Mother Nature. We rushed to our neighbors 3 story house around 10:30 am on the 28th knowing it was
our only choice, which saved our lives. We stayed on the second floor, listening to the water slosh back and forth on the first level. The fan blades on the lanai being ripped off one by one. The sliding storm doors on the third floor being slammed back and forth for hours until they were ripped from the house. The outside lights being ripped from the house that was just built 2 years before. The noise was unnerving and the water rising was beyond my worst fears. It was a very long loud scary day into the evening.
The next day we heard the Causeway was destroyed and that Sanibel had been ravaged by the storm. We ventured out the next morning after the storm surge had receded. We all knew that life as we had known it on our little slice of paradise had been
changed forever. We’ve all lost so much: homes, sentimental items, cars, jobs, businesses and parts of Sanibel. But here’s the good news: we mostly all survived. I am heartbroken for the families of those who didn’t make it. I’m thankful for my neighbors, family, friends, the neighborhood and how we all came together to help each other. I am thankful to so many of my family and friends that were so kind and thoughtful to me. I appreciated all who came to Joe’s celebration of life and gave me strength to keep moving. The town will rebuild. Some people are already posting online wondering why we would rebuild. If you have ever spent time on our island, then you will, perhaps, understand. Sanibel is not just shells and beaches and glorious skies that give you a glimpse of God. Not just a place where Magnificent Frigatebirds circle overhead, and Osprey pairs return every year to start a new family. Sanibel is a small town where we stop traffic for a gopher tortoise and patrol the beaches to protect sea turtle nests. A place where there’s a Sea School and a grocery store, a trailer park that’s been run by the same family since before the island’s founding. A place where artists paint manatee statues to raise money for affordable housing, and the whole community loves the Ding Darling refuge and the Shell Museum. So that’s also what all of us who call Sanibel home lost. That we will rebuild the Island means so much to so many all across this country and so many other countries. I want to thank everyone who has sent love, prayers, gift cards, words of wisdom, kindness and most of all strength to face each day and keep putting one foot in front of the other.